Hello May

I write this with so much defeat in my heart. I actually wrote a full blog post on what a good perspective towards the first of the month should look like and somehow it’s gone. It got deleted. I changed something to the picture above from my phone and somehow ended up deleting the whole post! I honestly don’t want to have to re-write this post but maybe this post will be more relatable than the one I had written before.

Life is full of surprises, some good and some really bad. Even though we can’t control what life throws at us, we can control how we react to it. The first of every month isn’t just when rent is due, it’s an opportunity to do better. Almost like a second or fifth chance to do better depending on what month you’re in lol. 

I definitely write this from experience. I could have chosen to say “bump this” and write a different post but this topic is too important for that. I really want to give you some insight to why I’m always excited to see a new month. To give you some background information, I’ll start with how my mentality used to be.

I used to let anything shake me. I wanted absolute control of my life and everything in it. But when months would go by and progress would be nowhere to be seen, I realized that something’s gotta give. So I started trusting God more and my perspective started changing. I started being more appreciative of the process and started choosing to learn from my mistakes than to wallow in them. Before, the first of the month reminded me of how useless I was. I couldn’t believe how I would let a whole thirty days go by with nothing to show for it. So I would sit there in dismay. Until I woke up. 

Now I’ve learned how to get my life together. The last week of a month is when I really sit back and look at all that I did or did not accomplish. I give myself a pat on the back for the ones I did manage to get done and take note of the ones I didn’t. But unlike before, this time instead of wallowing in my own despair over the goals I wasn’t able to touch or even accomplish, I smile and just add them to the goals I’m going to make for the next month.

“You can’t cry over spilled milk.” 

Your tears won’t reverse the hands of time. You beating yourself up over not doing all that you had set out to do won’t magically bring them about. But what will work is you using the disappointment you feel over not being able to accomplish all that you wanted to this past month as motivation to do better this new month. Get a vision of what you want to do this month and set some goals. Next write down the steps that need to be taken in order for these goals to be accomplished. Start small so you can go bigger. Don’t set strict deadlines like “I have to do this by week two or by the sixteenth” because doing this will only leave the door open for beating yourself up over it.

Lastly, pray over your goals. Talk to God about the desires on your heart. God always makes things happen when they’re supposed to so if the end of May comes and you’ve only accomplished three out of five goals, it’s ok. Pat yourself on the back and add them to the goals for next month. Do your best and watch God do the rest. You having the desire to do better this month is already a huge accomplishment in itself! The first of the month is a month I always look forward to and so should you. 

Until next time,